Welcome to our guest posts from BetterHelp on Well-Being for Children.
5 Ways to Build Up Your Child’s Resilience
When you wish to raise a child with resilience, there are several approaches to take, which may be able to lend a hand. When a child is resilient, this means they may have the ability to adapt to different situations and overcome any child stress issues. Here’s a look at a few ways you can potentially help your child become more resilient.
If you want to learn more about resilience, you can read BetterHelp for articles and information.
Keep a Schedule
It is a good idea to keep to a schedule, even on the weekends. This will allow your whole family to know what events are taking place at specific times, and there can be a fair amount of routine. For instance, you may set specific mealtimes and bedtimes, and even set aside times where your kids are able to do the things that they want to do.
Have Clear Rules and Boundaries (Including Consequences)
Another way to add structure to your household is to set forth clear rules and boundaries. In other words, let your little ones know what is expected of them. If they are supposed to keep their rooms clean or do their homework by a certain time, let them know this. You should also make sure they know what happens if they don’t follow these rules.
Talk to Your Kids
Even though you have a busy life, you need to talk to your kids every day. If they come to you with issues or need help with their homework, you should make time to lend a hand as well. If you are unable to talk to your kids when they need something from you, they may stop asking you for help. Moreover, you can speak with your kids when things come up that will affect their lives. Perhaps you have a new job with different work hours, or you are having another baby. It is important to include your children in conversations about these things. You should also take steps to let your kids know that they are loved each day. This can be a crucial part of the process.
Be Honest With Them About Everything
You don’t have to stretch the truth whenever you are talking to your children. Of course, there will likely be topics that you don’t want to share with them, but it is better to tell them the truth about everything you can, so they will have a clear picture of what is going on. If a family member is sick and may not make it, you may need to tell your child about the circumstances. This can give them time to cope with the situation and will also be a teachable moment.
Change Approaches When Necessary
You may need to keep changing up the rules and the way you parent as your children grow up. Keep in mind that you don’t have to be perfect at this. Anyone can make a mistake, but it is necessary to learn from these mistakes. There will likely be a lot of trial and error as a parent when it comes to aspects that work well for your family. This is probably the best approach. Refrain from comparing yourself to other families as well, since each one is different. You don’t have to raise your kids the same way someone else does. Cut yourself some slack.
Well-Being for Children conclusion
There are many things you can do to help your child become more resilient. You can set a routine that works for your whole family, talk to them daily, and be honest with them about events that are going on. When you do these things, you will be able to see what works and what doesn’t. Always be ready to change it up when you need to. Besides that, take it one day at a time, since parenting can be a learning process each day.
Other Well-Being posts
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Marie Miguel has been a writing and research expert for nearly a decade, covering a variety of health-
related topics. Currently, she is contributing to the expansion and growth of a free online mental health
resource with BetterHelp.com. With an interest and dedication to addressing stigmas associated with
mental health, she continues to specifically target subjects related to anxiety and depression.
Is my child spending too long playing video games?
These apps are designed to be addictive, that is the motivation of a lot of designers. Not all games are designed this way but a lot of them are. So what do we do as loving parents to support our children and more importantly to support ourselves to deal with this challenge?
Well primarily we have to resource ourselves fully to be the best parents we can be. This is easy to say of course but more tricky in practice. It is one thing to intend to look after ourselves but when we actually want to instil well being practises into our moment to moment existence this is another thing and a life long journey. Being a role model for our children is the best way to go, showing them how to look after themselves.
Here are some of Jennifer Pidgeon from Let’s Connect and Feel Better’s tips for parents when dealing with screen-addicted children:
These 4 tools are for the “point of taking them off” their device:
1. Have a fun distraction ready
2. Give your child pre-warning to transition, make eye contact with them (5 minutes left)
3. Remain calm and prepare yourself to connect with your child
4. Phone a friend to listen to you beforehand or during this transition
These 5 tools are for the “long-term preparation” on how to manage Screen Addiction generally:
1. Build a connection
2. Prepare friends who you can phone.
3. Have a fun distraction prepared
4. Make sure you’ve had a fulfilled day
5. Set limit beforehand and reach out
In regards to where and when your child has their device, I find just setting a simple time limit very helpful. This will be different for every family to fit with how everyone moves throughout their day.
For example, I aim to get my daughter off her IPad by 8 pm on weekdays and by 9 pm on weekends, this is different when she is at her grandparents for example or with her friends. Through lockdown, these limits went out the window completely for obvious reasons which meant chaos for both of us.
Generally now by eight, I am trying to lure her off her IPad. At 8 pm I begin to connect more with my daughter. I offer her a snack or dinner if we haven’t had it yet. Tell her about what I’m doing and I also remind her that it’s time to come off her IPad. I try not to be physical because this has not worked out well in the past. Sometimes when she is very fixated I will go for a mini walk to calm me down more before setting the limit, for those with little ones this may not be feasible.
Jen is a parenting expert, healer and entrepreneur. She started Let’s Connect and Feel Better with the intention to empower all to connect on a deeper more profound level. With their children, family and ultimately themselves.
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